In this Either/Or world of ours, it often seems that the hardest thing is to choose not to take a side. Pollsters, parents, friends, bosses, colleagues, Internet acquaintances – they all expect us to weigh in with our opinion. A Both/And response is not permitted. You are either for us or against us. If you don’t speak out, then obviously you’re condoning the latest outrage. No wonder so many of us feel exhausted. No wonder so many feel afraid.